[on preventing learned helplessness]
"Phrases that increase feelings of learned helplessness:
- Let me do that for you.
- I'll handle it.
- I'll talk to your mother (teacher) to see if I can get her to change her mind.
- I'll send the teacher a note.
- That's too difficult for you.
- I'll call the store and see if they have any left.
Phrases that enhance independence and decrease learned helplessness:
- I'll get the job started and you can finish it.
- Take a chance. See if you can do it.
- I know you can...
- Sounds like you have a problem. What solutions have you thought about?
- Let me teach you how to do this yourself."
"If you want to build a ship, don't recruit the men to gather the wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea." -Antoine de Saint-Exupery